Most of my family and friends are not readers. At least they are not readers like me. They don’t live with books touching every aspect of their lives. Some listen to audiobooks to fill their work days but don’t read at home. Some read when the mood is right, but not daily or even weekly. My family doesn’t read at all. My boyfriend only picks up books if they are biographies or memoirs of beloved musicians or comics.
So I spend a lot of time talking to people at work about books, or members of my various book clubs to get new recommendations. But these people aren’t there for my 24/7 bookish lifestyle.
I never expected more. I spend a lot of time listening to my best friend talk to me about K-Pop without having any real interest, but then she listens to me talk about books without any intention of reading. Sometimes being present is enough.
Sometimes it isn’t.
I have friends I share book recommendations with. They are mostly those of the audiobook at work variety and we have a group thread dedicated to discussing out reading/listening. They helped me push through Call Down the Hawk. I had them read The Library at Mount Char. I am waiting for the day one of them pops in with a recommendation. Sometimes my favorite moments at work are those when we are hours deep into a story and everyone is screaming at a twist while real work, the things we are being paid to work on, sit waiting. It’s only ever a few minute break and never enough to pull us away from important tasks, but it keeps me grounded in my love of reading and gives me precious memories and conversation starters with friends.

With family all I have are adaptations. My mother never read Jane Austen, but she has watched Pride and Prejudice with me. Whenever she sees a trailer that hints at a movie being based off of a book she’ll ask me if I have read it, and then if I want to see it. If I have read the book she’ll ask which was better, what changed and what elements she missed by not reading. I appreciate her connecting with me in this way, and the conversations are always meaningful. I get to really think on the difference between a book and its movie. Sometimes they are so different they cannot be compared, and sometimes one is obviously superior. Usually there is more grey. I went to school to be a screenwriter. I know that format changes meaning. Showing and telling and all of that. My mom makes me use that knowledge when I talk with her. For that and that alone I feel like I did not waste years on a degree I do not use.
My boyfriend and I have a similar arrangement. He’ll watch adaptations with me, but he’s also around when I am listening to audiobooks in the kitchen, or as I browse the internet. He’s there when I have a migraine and need to be in a dark room but do not want to be bored. He’s heard pieces of stories and asked questions. He also lets me talk at him about my favorite books even if he has no intention of reading them.
We started watching Outlander together, and now I am reading the books. I will get to fill in the plot holes not covered in the episodes. On vacations he helps me pick out bookstores to visit and generally enjoys when I take him to special collections or library branches. He likes seeing me in my element, and it is good to remember that doesn’t just mean with my nose in a book, but talking to booksellers and other librarians. He follows me to conferences and listens to me talk about sessions. He is learning about my profession like I learn about his.
I’m glad I’ve found ways to share my bookish love for my friends and family in a way that isn’t just – read book, discuss book, read next book, repeat. Finding ways to connect family that has no interest in books with the stories I love is important, and it allows for enrichment in everyone’s lives.
How do you share your bookish love with non-readers?


















